Go and look at her, for that is more likely to create love between you
عن المغيرة بن شعبة، قال: أتيتُ النبي -صلى الله عليه وسلم فذكرت له امرأةً أخطِبُها، فقال: «اذهب فانظر إليها، فإنه أجدرُ أن يُؤدمَ بينكما»، فأتيت امرأة من الأنصار، فخطَبتُها إلى أبَويها، وأخبرتهما بقول النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم ، فكأنهما كرِها ذلك، قال: فسمعت ذلك المرأة، وهي في خِدرها، فقالت: إن كان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم أمرك أن تنظر، فانظر، وإلا فأنشدُك، كأنها أَعْظَمت ذلك، قال: فنظرتُ إليها فتزوجتُها، فذكر من موافقتها.
Explanation
This Hadīth indicates the desirability of looking at the woman whom one wants to marry, for this is more likely to develop harmony and agreement between them. So when they get married, they would have known each other, and thus would not regret their decision. For this reason, Al-Mughīrah (may Allah be pleased with him) went to consult the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) about marrying a woman.
The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) commanded him to look at her so as to make sure that there is concord between them. This Hadīth also indicates the obligation of accepting whatever is reported from the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) without the least discomfort, for the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) commands nothing but good and righteousness.
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